{"id":3424,"date":"2011-11-23T13:10:15","date_gmt":"2011-11-23T19:10:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.christophergronlund.com\/blog\/tjw\/?p=3424"},"modified":"2011-11-23T13:09:32","modified_gmt":"2011-11-23T19:09:32","slug":"101-days-without-social-media","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.christophergronlund.com\/blog\/tjw\/2011\/11\/23\/101-days-without-social-media\/","title":{"rendered":"101 Days Without Social Media"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure style=\"width: 250px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" title=\"101\" src=\"http:\/\/www.christophergronlund.com\/blog\/tjw\/images\/101.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"250\" height=\"329\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-caption-text\">http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/rgourley\/<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Today at 8:00 p.m. is the end: 101 days without social media.<\/p>\n<p>I made it.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;d like to say it had a profound effect on me. In some ways, at least initially, it did. Then it was just a no-issue kind of thing I didn&#8217;t think about much. It was no longer, &#8220;I&#8217;m giving something up, and this is what I&#8217;m gaining&#8221;; it became, &#8220;Social what?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I like aspects of social media, but inside a couple months, I realized I could never see it again and be absolutely fine with that.<\/p>\n<p>But since I can now jump on Facebook, Twitter, and Google Plus to say, &#8220;Check out what happened when I gave up social media for 101 days,&#8221; I should probably write a bit more, huh?<\/p>\n<h2><strong>A Quick Recap<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>On August 14, after reading about <a title=\"Link to Monica Valentinelli's piece about going 100 days without social media.\" href=\"http:\/\/www.sfwa.org\/2011\/07\/the-results-of-my-100-day-social-media-blackout\/\">Monica Valentinelli&#8217;s experiences with a 100-Day Social Media Blackout<\/a>, I toyed with the idea of a 30-day break. Discussions on my personal Facebook page led to me not only taking the challenge, but deciding to go 50 days. I started the break at 8:00 that evening.<\/p>\n<p>Along the way, <a title=\"CM Stewart's blog.\" href=\"http:\/\/cmstewartwrite.wordpress.com\/\">CM Stewart<\/a> dared me to go 100 days. I decided to take the challenge and add a day, going 101 days without Facebook, Twitter, and Google+.<\/p>\n<p>So, how&#8217;d it go?<\/p>\n<h2><strong>At First&#8230;<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>At first I missed social media.<\/p>\n<p>Like most people using social media, I check things on my computer at home and on my phone when I&#8217;m on the go. While I don&#8217;t have a single push notification set on my phone and probably never will, I still built up a not-so-healthy Pavlovian reaction to social media.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Finish a block of writing? Do a social media sweep.<\/li>\n<li>Get home from a fun time out? Do a social media sweep.<\/li>\n<li>Lull in a visit? Do a social media sweep.<\/li>\n<li>At a conference? Instead of totally focusing on the speaker, do a social media sweep.<\/li>\n<li>Eating something cool? Take a photo, post it online, and do a social media sweep.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>You get the picture.<\/p>\n<p>Since I couldn&#8217;t take part in social media, I blogged about the break &#8212; anything for that connection.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Then Things Changed&#8230;<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Mornings &#8212; particularly weekend mornings &#8212; are when I missed social media the most. It was a trigger: sit down at desk; check social media.<\/p>\n<p>One morning I sat down and didn&#8217;t have that urge. When a week passed without the urge, it wasn&#8217;t profound &#8212; it was more like, &#8220;How &#8217;bout that: I didn&#8217;t miss social media this week&#8230;&#8221; and moved on.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s when I realized what I gained by taking the break.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>The Return of Focus<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>There was a time when writing and a few other things important to me were <em>always <\/em>on my mind. Without interruption, I looked at things in so many different ways that when I sat down to write, the words always flowed. When I started using Facebook and other social media sites more, that focus slipped away. Time I once spent sitting at my desk and focusing on ideas became, &#8220;Let me check Facebook.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>When I reached the end of a scene while writing, instead of continuing or thinking about other things that kept my focus on writing, I checked Twitter. That led to articles to read (or mark for reading later, which made it seem like I was always behind on things). By the time I returned to writing, I was thinking about other stuff or feeling like I had more to do than I did before opening Twitter.<\/p>\n<p>Even though I close my Web browser and put my phone away when I write, I still checked Facebook, Twitter, and Google+ when I reached a stopping point. During my 101-day social media break, that stopped &#8212; and cool things happened.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>What Was Gained<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>I enjoyed time with others even <em>more<\/em>. Sitting on the balcony while drinking coffee or tea with my wife, I left my phone inside. We didn&#8217;t interrupt that time by checking things online.<\/p>\n<p>I read even more than usual, and didn&#8217;t feel the urge to check social media when I reached a stopping point.<\/p>\n<p>I started a new novel <a title=\"The Juggling Writer entry about a change in writing plans.\" href=\"http:\/\/www.christophergronlund.com\/blog\/tjw\/2011\/09\/19\/a-change-in-writing-plans\/\">earlier than planned<\/a>, the words flowing when I <a title=\"The opening to A Magic Life.\" href=\"http:\/\/www.christophergronlund.com\/blog\/tjw\/2011\/10\/26\/opening-to-a-magic-life\/\">wrote the opening<\/a>. And <a title=\"An excerpt from A Magic Life.\" href=\"http:\/\/www.christophergronlund.com\/blog\/tjw\/2011\/11\/17\/another-change-in-writing-plans\/\">they continue to flow<\/a> in ways I never imagined. (I&#8217;m pleased with what I&#8217;m writing enough that I considered not going back to social media until I&#8217;m done with the first draft. Still not ruling that out.)<\/p>\n<p>I returned to reading longer articles when I <em>was <\/em>online. Gone was the <a title=\"Wikipedia's TL;DR entry.\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Wikipedia:Too_long;_didn%27t_read\">&#8220;too long; did not read&#8221;<\/a> reaction. (Spreaking of tl;dr, I wonder how many people will read this entire entry.) With no access to social media, people weren&#8217;t sharing as many articles with me and then asking what I thought about them. I chose what I wanted to read and enjoyed taking my time. (My internal reading voice is back to the speed I use when <a title=\"The Juggling Writer entry about reading out loud.\" href=\"http:\/\/www.christophergronlund.com\/blog\/tjw\/2010\/10\/06\/how-to-read-out-loud\/\">reading things out loud<\/a>, not the &#8220;hurrymustreadfastsomuchtodothatI&#8217;mnotenjoyingthisasmuchasIshould!&#8221; voice that comes when I feel bombarded by information.)<\/p>\n<p>And that&#8217;s the thing&#8230;<\/p>\n<h2><strong>The Noise<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>During the social media break, I didn&#8217;t see any talk about politics &#8212; for or against where I lean politically.<\/p>\n<p>And I liked that.<\/p>\n<p>A lot.<\/p>\n<p>I didn&#8217;t see what people were listening to on Spotify, what games they played, or what their favorite sports team did. (Should you think I&#8217;m knocking those things, I&#8217;m quite fond of Spotify, I like Angry Birds and Cut the Rope, and I enjoy watching the Chicago Bears and Chicago Blackhawks when I have the time. I just don&#8217;t want a social network filling the social media feeds of my friends with all that information. It&#8217;s reached a point where some social networks do it automatically.)<\/p>\n<p>No social &#8220;media gurus&#8221; following &#8220;a formula for success&#8221; they&#8217;d love to share with me; no Twitter feed packed with blocks of names of people I should follow (with no explanation why I should follow them) on Fridays.<\/p>\n<p>I saw no online drama; I wasn&#8217;t asked to post something as my status for an hour in support of some cause I may or may not believe in.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve always been good at filtering out all the noise in the world, but somewhere in the 101-day social media break I realized that&#8217;s not necessarily a skill I like being good at.<\/p>\n<p>The last 101 days have been very quiet.<\/p>\n<p>And I liked that.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>I Didn&#8217;t Miss Out<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>When I started the social media break, I had some friends tell me they&#8217;d die without Facebook.<\/p>\n<p>How could I go to a conference and <em>not <\/em>follow what&#8217;s happening on Twitter? (The answer: I&#8217;m <em>at<\/em> the conference &#8212; I know what&#8217;s going on, and furthermore, I&#8217;m not missing the things I once missed because I&#8217;m <a title=\"Louis CK's thoughts on social media.\" href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?feature=player_embedded&amp;v=xSSDeesUUsU\">watching it through an iPhone screen<\/a>.)<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You rank high on Google searches for &#8216;Google Plus for writers&#8217;; don&#8217;t you want to keep creating things on Google Plus to up your ranking?&#8221; (I wrote my <a title=\"The Juggling Writer entry about Google Plus for writers.\" href=\"..\/2011\/07\/19\/google-plus-for-writers\/\">Google Plus for Writers<\/a> entry for a couple people I know &#8212; not in the hope it would rank high on Google. Admittedly, I <em>will <\/em>occasionally  consider <a title=\"Wikipedia's search engine optimization entry.\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Search_engine_optimization\">SEO<\/a> when writing a headline, but I never write entries  specifically for the sake of SEO. Write enough and guess what? Sometimes  you&#8217;ll pull a high Google ranking.)<\/p>\n<p>When I started the break, I <em>did <\/em>think about all the things I was missing.<\/p>\n<p>But I didn&#8217;t die without Facebook; in fact, I got even more stuff done during the break. I thought when I went to <a title=\"Podcamp Dallas' website.\" href=\"http:\/\/podcampdallas.com\/\">Podcamp Dallas<\/a> that I&#8217;d miss Twitter. (I didn&#8217;t.) I missed Google Plus for the people I follow there; not for the benefit to SEO.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>What about Social Media Now?<br \/>\n<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>This doesn&#8217;t mean I&#8217;m now against social media or that I don&#8217;t recognize that it goes both ways &#8212; because I do.<\/p>\n<p>Do people need to see this photo I took of the kabobs at <a title=\"The Cafe Elite website.\" href=\"http:\/\/thecafeelite.com\/\">Cafe Elite<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone\" title=\"Vegan kabobs from Cafe Elite in Plano, Texas.\" src=\"http:\/\/www.christophergronlund.com\/blog\/tjw\/images\/kabobs.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"475\" height=\"356\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Do people really need to know that I think the video below is the funniest thing on the Internet in months? (Should you think I&#8217;m being political, I&#8217;d laugh just as hard were it a candidate I support. This isn&#8217;t about politics; it&#8217;s about creativity and wordplay and how it all registers in the brain to me, and it <em>never <\/em>gets old!)<\/p>\n<p><object width=\"475\" height=\"271\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/uE5xZKszXMQ?version=3&amp;hl=en_US&amp;rel=0\" \/><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" \/><param name=\"allowscriptaccess\" value=\"always\" \/><embed type=\"application\/x-shockwave-flash\" width=\"475\" height=\"271\" src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/uE5xZKszXMQ?version=3&amp;hl=en_US&amp;rel=0\" allowscriptaccess=\"always\" allowfullscreen=\"true\"><\/embed><\/object><\/p>\n<p>Do you need to see another video of me juggling to surf music?<\/p>\n<p><object width=\"475\" height=\"271\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/OTIQkpJ6pbk?version=3&amp;hl=en_US&amp;rel=0\" \/><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" \/><param name=\"allowscriptaccess\" value=\"always\" \/><embed type=\"application\/x-shockwave-flash\" width=\"475\" height=\"271\" src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/OTIQkpJ6pbk?version=3&amp;hl=en_US&amp;rel=0\" allowscriptaccess=\"always\" allowfullscreen=\"true\"><\/embed><\/object><\/p>\n<p>Okay, so maybe some people do. And I&#8217;m with them.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>The Good and the Bad<br \/>\n<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>What I missed about social media during the break were the photos of what friends and acquaintances were up to. I missed people sharing things they saw, thought about, and knew others would like. I&#8217;m a sucker for short videos or just reading a quick entry about what a friend did while I was doing something else.<\/p>\n<p>At its worst &#8212; for me &#8212; social media is a noisy distraction. At its best, though, it connects me to others I often can&#8217;t see in person.<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s no denying social media&#8217;s appeal. I can&#8217;t tell you how many conversations with friends and family over the past 101 days began with an assumption that I knew what somebody was doing because it was discussed on a social network. People started saying, &#8220;So how &#8217;bout so-and-so&#8217;s good news?&#8221; followed by, &#8220;That&#8217;s right, you probably don&#8217;t know about that&#8230;&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>And they&#8217;re right, in most cases I didn&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>So What Did I Miss?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>I missed seeing photos and updates about what friends were up to while I wasn&#8217;t around&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>I missed  congratulating a friend of over 30 years on his completion of the Chicago  marathon&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>I missed congratulating <em>several <\/em>friends on the arrival of new children into their lives&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>I missed staying in closer touch to friends in other states&#8230; (The greatest thing about social media for me is contact with friends in other places.)<\/p>\n<p>I missed <a title=\"Dube Juggling Equipment.\" href=\"http:\/\/www.dube.com\">Dube Juggling<\/a> wishing The Juggling Writer a happy second year on their Twitter feed&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>I missed people mentioning that they liked <em><a title=\"The Hell Comes with Wood Paneled Doors webpage.\" href=\"http:\/\/www.roadtripfromhell.com\">Hell Comes with Wood Paneled Doors<\/a><\/em>&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p>I missed a web of people and companies I find interesting sharing and discussing things &#8212; and taking part in those conversations&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>I <em>did <\/em>miss social media. (At least many aspects of social media.)<\/p>\n<h2><strong>So&#8230;What Now?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>I&#8217;m back.<\/p>\n<p>I was always more likely to reply to others than post and promote, but I may talk about what I&#8217;m doing a little more than I used to.<\/p>\n<p>I <em>will <\/em>continue replying to others when I <em>do <\/em>check social networks.<\/p>\n<p>I think that&#8217;s where the biggest change will occur: I don&#8217;t plan to check things as much. I won&#8217;t allow the Pavlovian effect to creep back. I plan to log out of networks so that reflex of just going there and it&#8217;s all open and ready remains a thing of the past. I may keep the Facebook, Twitter, and Google Plus apps off my phone &#8212; not sure about that one, yet.<\/p>\n<p>I may cut back on the people I follow. Even with Circles in Google Plus, Columns in TweetDeck, and whatever Facebook&#8217;s come up with to create groups, it still feels so&#8230;overwhelming to keep up with it all. I&#8217;m a better writer when I&#8217;m not surrounded by noise.<\/p>\n<p>And writing comes first.<\/p>\n<p>Really, I don&#8217;t know what I&#8217;ll do now that I&#8217;m returning to social media because I haven&#8217;t given it too much thought.<\/p>\n<p>I have a feeling, as long as it stays that way, things will work out well&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Today at 8:00 p.m. is the end: 101 days without social media. I made it. I&#8217;d like to say it had a profound effect on me. In some ways, at least initially, it did. Then it was just a no-issue kind of thing I didn&#8217;t think about much. 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